Common Sense from a Common Man

Self Reliance – You can do better for yourself
January 11, 2009, 12:18 pm
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In this period of time that we’re in, we all tend to get hyper-emotional on certain issues.  This greatly clouds our ability to reason and thusAlexa and Emily - The future make decisions based on half baked ideas, false data, or just plain hearsay.  We need to be more in tune with the power that each one of has, we need to come back to the tested and proven principle of self-reliance.

Right now I can think of no better example than my daughter Alexa.

A couple of days ago, she received a letter from Arizona State University informing her that she was awarded an academic scholarship (a 4 year scholarship) from the Provost there.  Alexa was at a friend’s house for the night so we waited until she got back the next day and then gave her the letter.

The look on her face said it all.  You could see in her beautiful eyes the pride she felt but if you looked a little deeper you could see recognition.  She realized, at that moment, she had done this on her own.  She realized all the hard work that she had done had just paid off.

My daughter realized the power of self-reliance.  She now understood that she was powerful in and of herself.  That no single person, not her father, mother, teacher, President, Congress, etc., could do better for her than she could for herself.  She knew it all along but now she realized and understood.

She didn’t have to go to summer school, she has a 4.25 GPA, but she has done so every summer since 9th grade.  She could have just gone along with having a teacher who couldn’t teach Physics last year and breezed through a class.  She didn’t do that though – she spoke up and wanted the other teacher who challenged her and made her work for a good grade. She didn’t have to take Advanced Calculus.

She didn’t have to join a youth group and then become a leader.  She didn’t have to join Student Council and contribute hours and hours.  She didn’t have to join DECA and lead in that group as well.  She didn’t have to do any of this – she could have relied on others – but she didn’t.  She relied on herself.

Am I bragging about my daughter?  You’re damn skippy I am.  I’ll continue till the day I die and, my younger daughter Emily, you’ll be hearing about her as well.

I hope at this point in time in our country, more adults encourage their children to rely on themselves.  I hope as a nation we move towards self reliance and not relying on the government which is the worst at doing something good for anybody long term.

I hope we can move away from the empty words of Hope and Change and turn towards the actions of self-reliance and focused effort.

Self-reliance – the proven and tested way of doing better for yourself like no other.  That’s just common sense.

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Greetings @fleckman. I’m a living case study in self-reliance. The temporary lifts I did receive from certain government programs provided advantages for me that I would not otherwise have had.

I’m also proud of your daughter. I love to see people reaching for their dreams and willing to work hard to achieve them. Yet, the promises of Hope and Change are sometimes all people without both can cling to when the going is rough.

Issues related to success, achievement, sacrifice, self-worth, even failure are subjective. It’s my hope that in this new era, we can all be tolerant of each other’s point of view. Yet, even Emerson, whom you’ve cited here, advocates self-reliance as a starting point, not a goal.

With the democratizing power of the social web, I believe we are somewhat in the throes of a social revolution. In the US, our historical preference for self-reliance coupled with a greater sense of the common good (which includes compassion and understanding for divergent POVs) is a hallmark of American society around the world. We need to lead by example relying on our own industrious, but we are duty bound to offer opportunities to many who have neither the resources, or in some cases, the gifts we’ve been blessed with from birth.

p.s. Sorry for the liberal sermon. I came here originally to see if you knew anything about Arizona play-off tickets. 🙂

Comment by Susan Scrupski

Hi Susan,
Susan – No apologies necessary as I don’t view your post as liberal at all. Hope and Change are needed in any one’s life at any time I believe.

It’s my belief that the true concepts of Hope and Change are being cheapened and trivialized at this time. They are being used for advantageous purposes right now. If you talk about change, and things are looking to be as they have been, then that’s wrong. It sends the false definition and expectation out to our kids.

I think you’re spot on when you say we’re in the throes of a social revolution. This revolution should be used to raise people up through helping each recognize their potential and not be taken from one and given to another to even things out.

So yes I do believe in Hope and Change; but I believe that is generated from within by the individual. As the saying goes – give a man a fish and he’s happy for a day, teach a man to fish and he’s happy for a lifetime. Or something like that. Right now the gov. is trying to just give us a fish.

I working on play-off tickets and I’ll let you know. I thought of you as soon as the Cardinals won.

Comment by fleckman

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